The other night I had what seemed like a strange dream but was actually very telling.
I have to share the dream to give full effect.
In my dream…
Mike and I were making out pretty passionately in bed when all of a sudden Mike said “wait, I have something to show you.” He stood at the end of the bed and started doing tai chi moves. ”I learned these for you,” he said. Immediately, my body went from hot to cold. I was completely turned off. “Ok, you can stop now,” I said awkwardly.
When I woke up…
Weird, huh? I woke up thinking how bizarre the dream was.
And then I realized its meaning: I love my husband and am attracted to him exactly the way he is.
I’m always asking Mike to come to yoga with me, to read this personal development book or watch that inspirational spiritual or business video with me. I’ll push him think about his next career move and where he wants to be in 10 years. And I get a little frustrated when he’s not interested.
But these things aren’t Mike. Like not at all.
Frankly, if Mike was throwing a yoga mat over his shoulder on Saturday mornings or brewing coffee in anticipation of Super Soul Sunday that would just be weird. If Mike was throwing out ideas left and right about potential dream jobs or career moves I would wonder what was going on. Because it’s not him.
I fell in love with Mike and continue to love him just the way he is. We are very different in many ways–he yells at the TV during Philadelphia sports games and agonizes over political debates while I yell about people not fulfilling their dreams and agonize over relationships. But I think that’s why we work.
Bottom line is if he changed in the ways I sometimes want him to, I probably wouldn’t be turned on by it in the way I think I would. In fact, I know I wouldn’t, it would just be weird.
Do you have things you wish your significant other would do or was interested in?
Have you gotten messages from your dreams lately?